Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday – [PDF Download]

Many of us insist the main impediment to a full, successful life is the outside world. In fact, the most common enemy lies within our ego. Early in our careers, it impedes learning and the cultivation of talent.

With success, it can blind us to our faults and sow future problems. In failure, it magnifies each blow and makes recovery more difficult. At every stage, ego holds us back.

The Ego is the Enemy draws on a vast array of stories and examples, from literature to philosophy to history. We meet fascinating figures like Howard Hughes, Katharine Graham,

Bill Belichick, and Eleanor Roosevelt, all of whom reached the highest levels of power and success by conquering their own egos. Their strategies and tactics can be ours as well.

But why should we bother fighting ego in an era that glorifies social media, reality TV, and other forms of shameless self-promotion?  Armed with the lessons in this book, as Holiday writes,

“you will be less invested in the story you tell about your own specialness, and as a result, you will be liberated to accomplish the world-changing work you’ve set out to achieve.”

Ego is the Enemy – PDF

Ego Is The Enemy starts off with a strong testament: The type of people who tend to succeed early, tend to be the same kind of people who are in danger of ego taking the predominant voice in their actions. As your body of accomplishments grows, your ego may follow, installing itself in you as arrogance.

Arrogance is often confused with power and self-confidence, both by the person and by the people around them. Ego is a soothing voice. It’s comforting. Pursuing great work, in arts, business or sports is a terrifying endeavor.

Ego will justify not doing so, reminding us of our past great accomplishments. Replacing our uncertainty with self-absorption. It will tell us exactly what we want to hear when we want to hear it. This is extremely dangerous.

Instead of sitting with our heads down, and getting work done, the ego will lead us in the direction of the work that is more public. More easily recognized. It will take all the short-term leaps it can.

But what does ego know? The ego was built by accomplishments that predated the strong ego. It doesn’t know anything about accomplishing success. Instead, it provides us with a great recipe for how to ruin it.

Ego is what causes Kanye to go from the medium that built his ego, music, to fronts he’s convinced he can succeed in. Fashion. Arguably one of the most competitive, chaotic industries in the world. Kanye is convinced he can succeed here, but he is not.

He is letting his ego carry from one accomplishment to the other. It is not the rational, heads-down, humble, self-aware self that is driving this, it’s the ego. Talent, skill, and confidence are not rare. Humility, diligence, and self-awareness are.

When let the ego subdue, you will fall into traps of accomplishment. Research shows that goal visualization is important, but at a certain point, our brains start to confuse it with actual progress.

Ego actively prevents us from getting better. We know about unknown unknowns, we know about known unknowns, we know about known knowns. What people often leave out, are the unknown-knowns.

These are our assumptions. Our stereotypes. Our biases. This is our most dangerous vice. The ego completely ignores this. How will we turn anything upside down, if we cannot question our assumptions?

Holiday describes the dangers of passion. There is a survival bias present in the world of passion, where we see all the successes that come from it, but not the order of magnitude of failures that lie behind each success. They are invisible.

It doesn’t surface when someone takes a loan in their house, maxes out their credit cards, and uses all their SO’s savings to chase an idea. It surfaces when that succeeds, but never when it fails. This is the other side of the medal of passion. The ego loves passion because it’s a blindfolding tool it can use.

The book touches on the issue of money: by default, we will always want more. If we don’t set ourselves a target, getting more is the easiest path forward. But money comes with significant downsides.

You may accumulate habits on the hedonic treadmill that causes you to not rely on this money. This means you may have to say yes to things in the future that you don’t actually want to do.

You need targets and metrics, not the constant accumulation of money, which usually follows from the increasing accumulation of expectations from other people. At this point, you’ve said yes to money over your own freedom. Find poise, not pose.

What is the ego? Holiday is not referring to the Freudian ego. He uses the term to describe the part of you that is always striving for recognition. The part of you that always has an excuse.

The part of you that prevents you from getting done what you need to get done. It’s not a power that corrupts, that would be too simple. Instead, it is a force that fragments.

It closes options. It mesmerizes. It clouds your mind and puts blindfolds on you. It decreases your perspective. It makes you see what you want to see. Ego is the default choice because it’s soothing.

That is precisely why we must be cognizant of it and counter-balance it. In every situation, ask yourself who is acting. Is it you, your goals, your vision, your long-term accomplishments, and your confidence? Or is it your ego?

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Author Ryan Holiday
Book Title Ego is the Enemy
Language English
Pages 169
Size 1.98 MB

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